If You're Not Failing, You're Not Trying

I failed on a big venture I've been pursuing for a couple months now. I failed hard. I wished, meditated, and worked my ass off to try and make one of my dreams come true and this past week I was told no. By 30 different people might I add. Initially, I curled up into a fetal position for a day and cried my eyes out feeling like the world was coming to an end. But then I stopped feeling bad for myself and realized how insanely blessed I am. I have a platform in which I am lucky enough to share impactful stories with almost 300,000 people. These stories are of course about great love, but they're so much more than that. With the help of all of my wonderful followers who have been generous enough to send in submissions, I have been able to showcase what modern relationships today look like in all of their variations and forms. Relationships are changing. We're setting new rules. We're working through the obstacles of distance, race, religion, gender norms, sexual preference, and stereotypes to fight for those we love. In the past year, we finally overcame one of the biggest hurdles, which was the legalization of same-sex marriage. Also, in the past few decades, there has been an uprising of career-oriented women who are delaying marriage and having children in order to pursue their dreams. Last but certainly not least, is the ever-evolving role that social media and technology plays in relationships. It's all fascinating and I'm grateful that I get to share such a diverse range of stories on TWWM to inspire and educate people. I'd like to believe that our world is moving towards a place of more acceptance. Love can't be defined by labels and we no longer fit into perfectly checked boxes. Our generation takes pride in their individuality.

Another lesson I learned through my recent rejection is that just because you have a certain talent, doesn't necessarily mean it will translate to success. Be grateful for the opportunities you're given, because you are not entitled to them. There are many others who share the same talent as you do, but may not be given the same chances. Of course it's about hard work, hustling, and perseverance, but don't underestimate the role of luck. Be grateful to those who take a chance on you, and to those who believe in you when no one else will. I am so fortunate to have a handful of extraordinary people in my life who have honestly never given up on me. They pick me off the ground when my mental health is failing me and remind me that I'm capable when I start to doubt myself. They show me unconditional support even when it may be nearly impossible at times. I am so grateful to the people who have stuck by side. I used to be someone who was very stubborn and had too much pride to ask for help. But I'm realizing now that I had it all wrong. Asking for help, sharing ideas with others, and leaning on people when you need support is all part of being human. Work hard, fail hard, and dream big. As Chris Pratt said, "Don't give up. Ever. Apply constant pressure for as long as it takes. It will break before you do. Go get it."